Another helpful post from ANA. The book is fabulous. I have it on my Kindle.
From my Book – From Charm to Harm and Everything else in Between with a Narcissist! @http://www.amazon.com
So WHY does a Narcissist idealize their targets in the first place. Why do they invest so much effort, time and energy into giving the illusion of intimacy and meaning in a relationship, given that they never really bond with other human beings in the first place? Well because it is a major component of the abuse to secure their target AND gain their trust, as well as defines them as predators, extortionists and the abusers they are.
The obvious response would be that they do it for security or constant and LONG term supply (but that doesn’t stop them in seeking out supply on the side). Perhaps they even do it because they can’t get close to people to secure supply with their TRUE psychopathic nature, SO IT IS A NEEDED…
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