One of the most important things my therapist ever said to me was, “There is a difference between being desired and being the object of someone’s need.”

After Narcissistic Abuse

From my Book: From Charm to Harm and Everything else in Between with a Narcissist! @

The dynamics of a relationship with a Narcissist is built solely on the premise that you are ONLY an object to this distorted creature for as long as they want you to be OR until they have extorted everything they can from you, OR you uncover the truth about them. Unfortunately, you are coming from what you believe is a real relationship with them so you become blinded and desensitized to the day to day subtle manipulation and abuse. Love, commitment and growth are your goals, but slowly but surely your emotions and thoughts are eroded away until you lose the person you were for so many years. The Narcissist doesn’t change over time or stop the abuse and they will continue manipulating, devaluing and send you into a temporary insanity and then discard…

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